Expecting a Baby is a huge deal. When you find out you are going to be a Dad the feeling has no comparison. You are overjoyed, excited and eager.
Then the worry will likely kick in. You need to learn to deal with the worry and a method of doing this might be Mindfulness. Here are some typical worries Dads to be will have.
- I am not ready to be a Dad.
- We don’t have enough money to have a child.
- Our house/flat is not big enough for a baby.
- What will people think?
These are the nice worries. The worries that most people will have and hopefully their mind shuts off at this point. There are also more sinister worries when Expecting a Baby.
- Might we miscarry?
- What if the baby is ill or has a deformity from birth?
- What if my partner suffers in pregnancy? Injury? Death?
My point with these is that these are all genuine worries. But, there is a huge difference between the two.
The first lot of points are in your control. If you aren’t ready you have at best 9 months to get ready. You can always earn more money, look for a new job or work more. This may let you upsize your property. People will be happy for you – anyone who isn’t, forget about them. They aren’t worth your time.
The second lot is a different story. When Expecting a Baby these worries are out of your control They are ever present but out of your control. Try to keep this in mind – you cannot change them. Let the worries go and you will be better of for it. This is easier said than done but here are a few methods that I will expand on elsewhere.
- Mindfulness – Being ever present and meditating.
- Speak with your Midwife.
- Talk through your worries with your partner. Prepare for the worst. Morbid, but essential.
The worries you have when expecting a baby will not go away but can be managed. New ones will present themselves each week the pregnancy goes on for. They will likely spiral out of control towards the end. You are the master of your mind. Train it and it will work.
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